38 Things To Remember After A Breakup If You Want Him Back

“It takes a man at least three weeks to realize you’re not actively seeking him out. After four weeks, he’s wondering what the hell you’re doing.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“Immediately after a breakup the hardest part is controlling your emotions. Which is why silence is golden… it camouflages your emotions. It’s perfectly fine to fall to pieces… just not in front of him. Stay calm, grounded, don’t cry, beg, plead or grovel for him to take you back. This behavior may s…”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“A strong woman knows how to take care of her and the life that she has created. More importantly, she knows her mind. She doesn’t allow drama in her life. And she doesn’t allow a man to make her messy. She knows her value and self-worth and has the confidence and self-esteem to back it up. She’s wit…”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“He’s expecting you to call and text him at all hours of the day and night professing your undying love. This is what the ‘hard to get man’ is accustomed to. And guess what? He’s losing respect for you each time he sees your name pop up on his phone.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“You may say that you believe this is playing games and you’re not one to play games. Well, how’s that working for you? In a perfect world there would be no need, but this isn’t a perfect world. Chances are he has been playing games with you for months, years or longer. Men live for the thrill of the…”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“If you stay in contact with him from the beginning of the breakup, you fail to make him”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“Because women fall apart when they’re not mentally prepared and are caught off guard… just as if you were notified about a loved one’s death. It shocks you! By the time your brain has registered exactly what has transpired, you immediately want to get everything out in the open. This is also a perfe…”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“Maybe you were hard to get in the beginning, let him chase you like a lion chases its prey and then… he caught you. Maybe your only fault is being too nice and too available. And men believe women that are too nice and too available are not only thirsty for love, but are completely dehydrated. Most…”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“I realize ignoring him goes against every fiber of your being, but now more than ever you must show restraint and self-control.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“By going silent he will slowly forget about all of the negative thoughts and replace them with positives ones.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“Show him the silent treatment until he’s knocking on your door, making grand gestures and more importantly providing you with a plan that gives you what you need.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“Patience shows self-control and maturity, two qualities men love in a woman. It shows him that you have control over your own emotions. Focus on becoming the most amazing woman you can be. Say and repeat to yourself”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“Chasing a man may work out for a little while, but the happiest women understand that confidence comes from knowing he wants you.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“And remember, the happiest relationships come from the man being the pursuer.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“The biggest myth about relationships is that men are afraid of commitment. What men are afraid of is losing the adrenaline rush they get when a new woman believes in her mind he’s some fantasy prince charming.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“For every three to four attempts he makes to contact you only reply to one.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“And remember this… When you begin to work overtime to be in a man’s life it’s because he’s not pulling his weight or doing his own fair share of the work. Which is making you work harder. And the harder you work the more he loses respects for you.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“By giving Mr. Ex space, and more importantly silence… you transfer those feelings of loss, rejection and abandonment that he placed on you, right back to him. Often men fail to realize what they have until it is gone and it’s your job to make him realize what he’s lost.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“Helen Rowland once said, ‘A man is like a cat; chase him and he will run. Sit still and ignore him and he’ll come purring at your feet.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“Your only job is to show him you can live without him. Show him you do not need him and you might be surprised how fast he comes looking for you. Most importantly -- make your exit with class, dignity and pride intact.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“We attract men that mirror ourselves; the law of attraction is that likes attract likes. So if you are not in love with yourself, or even in like with yourself chances are it’s going to be hard to attract a man that not only loves you, but likes you too.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“Realistically, if the two of you really shared a deep connection, Mr. Ex will have made contact with you within thirty days. If Mr. Ex makes No Contact within sixty days it’s very safe to assume your relationship is over.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“I believe in true love. If there is a person that you feel connected with and believe in your heart it’s meant to be, who am I, or anyone else to tell you differently. If you fear not contacting him will make him forget you, you need not worry. Absence truly does make the heart grow fonder.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“You may try to justify to yourself that it is perfectly fine to call him now because you have been in a long-term relationship and the rules don’t apply to you. This unfortunately is where many women go wrong. Now, more than ever you have to sit back and let him initiate contact first.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“At the end of the day, what proves you are a class act is when you can remain calm, cool and collected even in times of trouble.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“Continue to make posts in the same manner you have done in the past few weeks or months. If you never posted anything before, no need to start now. If you begin to post or tweet every aspect of your life to prove to the world how happy you are, it will only draw attention.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“He cannot possibly experience what life is like without you if he sees your pretty face in a post or tweet every day.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“Don’t act as if you have a full life, actually have a full life.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“He knows the accidental text ploy. No ‘accidentally’ sending a text message to him by mistake to later claim it was intended for your sisters-cousins, best friends-brother. No nothing. Silence.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com

“He received your message! A good rule to live by is if you send a text message and receive no response--you should never send a second one.”

— Leslie Braswell, amazon.com