21 Signs You're In A Dead-End Relationship That Is Going Nowhere

“They stay and cling to the hope that someday he’ll come around and will commit. It’s a huge waste of time and energy, and it really does a number on your sense of self.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If a guy doesn’t share his true self with you, if he won’t let you see who he is at his core, the chances are high that he’s not in it for the long haul and doesn’t see a future with you. If you’re really unsure about whether or not a guy is serious about you, take a look at the things you know abou…”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If a guy truly cares about you, he will want to make room for you in his life. Even if he has a lot going on and won’t be available for a few days, he’ll send a text or message to let you know he’s thinking about you.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“He Disappears for Days or Weeks at a Time, Then Acts Like It Was No Big Deal”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If a guy knows for certain that you’ll always be there waiting in the wings, no matter how badly he behaves, he won’t respect you and he definitely won’t want to commit to you— why should he when he knows he doesn’t have to? There would be absolutely no benefit for him.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“His disappearing acts serve more as a way to let you know this relationship isn’t serious and he is still free to do what he wants.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“I think the most common relationship in this day and age is the non-relationship, that is, when you’re dating a guy and you’re basically boyfriend/ girlfriend aside from the fact that you’re not.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“The simple truth is this: when a guy says he doesn’t want a relationship, what he’s really saying is he doesn’t want a relationship with you.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If he tells you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, or he has ‘commitment issues,’ or hates labels, just take it at face value, do yourself a favor, and move on.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If your dates consist of you going over to his place and watching a movie or you cooking for him, then he isn’t taking you or the relationship very seriously.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If you’re the only one making the effort to keep the spark alive and do special things, it’s a sign that he isn’t very invested in you.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If he doesn’t talk about his family, or changes the subject anytime you bring them up, it’s a sign that he has no intention of making the introduction.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“He probably does care about you, he does enjoy spending time with you, he does like you… he just doesn’t like you enough.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If he likes spending time with you and hanging out, but doesn’t want to be official… he likes you, he just doesn’t like you enough.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If you run into each other here and there and talk for hours and maybe even hook up, but you don’t hear from him after… he likes you, he just doesn’t like you enough.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If you’ve been seeing each other for a while and he refuses to be exclusive, or doesn’t want to put a label on it… he likes you, he just doesn’t like you enough.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“I’m not saying you can’t ever get out of the friend zone with a guy, because it is possible in some cases, but I am saying it’s a waste of time to put all your energy into trying. It’s a waste of time to tally up the ‘signs’ to try to figure out if he likes you as more than a friend because… no guy…”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“He is somewhat attracted to you, but again, not enough to want to date you. Because if he wanted to, he would.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“When things are good, they are so good. When they’re bad, you cling to the good memories.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“I think the reasons it hurts so much when these situations end is because you’re left trying to understand how it is that a smart, intuitive woman such as yourself could ignore so many blatant red flags and stay with a guy who didn’t treat her right. You feel like you’ve sold yourself short, like yo…”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Men aren’t that complicated. If a guy says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, he means it. If he isn’t taking steps to be with you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. If you can’t tell how he feels, then you actually already know how he feels. See? Not complicated.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com