22 Things That Are Preventing You From Finding The Love You Deserve

“You cannot make someone love you. You can only make yourself someone who can be loved.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“There’s no faster way to repel a man than to need him. Wanting a man is not the same as needing one.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Neediness is a state of mind where you feel incomplete, or have an emotional void, and try to fill this empty space with a relationship or male validation.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“A guy wants to feel chosen by a woman he had to earn. He doesn’t want to feel like he’s just filling a spot that could have easily gone to any other man with a pulse.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Most women are usually at one extreme or the other: desperate and willing to put up with anything, or too picky and unwilling to ‘settle’ for anything less than their dream man.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Another problem is that most women have adopted a sometimes inflexible idea that it’s ‘better to be alone than to settle.’ Taken to an extreme, this mindset causes many women to close themselves off to guys with amazing traits just because of some superficial flaw that rules him out as their dream g…”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“A lot of women are way too quick to dismiss a guy before really giving him a fair shot.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“A successful relationship comes down to two things: the right person at the right time. The first thing that’s important to remember when it comes to relationships is that in general, like attracts like. That is, what you are or think you are is what you will attract.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If you don’t value yourself, you will go for someone who doesn’t treat you well, and you will be OK with it because he’s just validating how you feel about yourself.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If you’re afraid of getting hurt or feel like the guys you want always leave you, then you might subconsciously be putting up walls to protect yourself.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“In order to attract a real relationship, you first need to make sure that you are in the right place emotionally. Make sure you want a relationship for the right reasons, not just to fill a void or make you feel better about yourself. You also need to develop a firm sense of who you are and learn ho…”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Good self-esteem attracts someone capable not only of healthy interactions but of loving you for who you are. If you’re not sure of yourself inside, you’ll seek validation outside.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“One of the biggest obstacle standing in your way and stopping you from having the relationship you want is wanting the guys who don’t want you.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Remember, damage cases are a waste of time and energy. Wanting a guy who doesn’t want you is a tragedy. Time is a precious thing to waste, so get to work and undo the faulty wiring that leads you to the guys who can’t appreciate you.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“For instance, if you are afraid of rejection, all you’ll pick up on is being rejected. A hundred people can tell you how great and wonderful you are, but it won’t sink in. All that will stand out to you is the one person who didn’t seem to be interested in you.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Your reality is created in large part by your filter system. If you believe that the guys you want will never want you, you will find a justification for this fear even if it’s far from the case. Once you come to expect the behavior, you create a self-fulfilling prophecy.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If you believe you’re unattractive, you will dismiss everyone who compliments your appearance and will write it off as them just being nice. When someone says something that implies they don’t find you attractive, you’ll grab hold of it and will use it as proof of your original belief.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If we dwell on something, even for under a minute, our mind becomes programmed to pick it up.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Anytime a negative thought pops into your mind (I’ll never find a boyfriend… I’m going to end up alone… Men always leave me), pluck it out and tell yourself the opposite. This applies not only to relationships, it applies to and can be used to enhance all areas of your life. Our thoughts have a huge…”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“To get the relationship that lasts, you have to come to terms with all the ones that didn’t.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“In the years that followed, I became hardened and my once open heart was now unable to feel anything for any man I dated.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“If you’ve been hurt in the past, try to see if you can identify any old wounds you’re still carrying around with you. Think about how you interpreted the situation at the time and see if you can spot any faulty beliefs about yourself that may have developed. Then do whatever you need to in order to…”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com