Bad relationships are the ones filled with drama. The highs are higher and the lows are lower. When I say ‘bad relationship,’ I mean everything from a toxic, codependent situation to a relationship with a man who won’t commit in a significant way, to a match that is simply incompatible.
Catalog
Sabrina Alexis
Men are not responsive to nagging or criticism, but they can be enormously receptive— and appreciative— when you tell them what makes you happy in a loving way.
Sometimes you’ll feel unloved, insecure, angry. Sometimes you’ll want to just run, and sometimes you’ll feel really lonely, and that will surprise you, because how can you be lonely in the company of someone who truly loves you?
Here’s the thing that no one really tells you: good relationships don’t always feel all that good… but it’s not for the same reason bad relationships feel bad.
Instead of focusing on what your partner should be doing, try to look at what he is doing right in the relationship and show appreciation for those things. The more your man feels appreciated, the more he’ll want to do to make you happy.
Happiness isn’t something you get from a relationship (although a relationship can certainly add to your level of happiness), it’s something that spills into your relationship.
Men cannot resist a woman with a smile.
There are many ways to keep the lust alive in your relationship, you’ll probably discover them all by just thinking about how things were in the beginning of your relationship, back when you were overcome by a magnetic force of physical attraction.
...what we call ‘love at first sight’ is really intense lust and desire coupled with the recognition that there is the potential to create something meaningful with this other person.
You can be totally perfect for one another, you can love each other like crazy, you can be wildly attracted to one another, you can even be soul mates, and you will still have to work at it.
In a romantic relationship, love will give you stability, partnership, and acceptance, but lust will give you passion, fire, and sexual satisfaction.
When it comes to love, the rule to live by is never allow yourself to care for someone who hasn’t shown he cares about making you happy.
If you run into each other here and there and talk for hours and maybe even hook up, but you don’t hear from him after… he likes you, he just doesn’t like you enough.
When a guy opens up to you, when he shares his dreams, his fears, his hopes, his wishes, his motivations, etc., he is investing in you. By investing in you, he is committing himself to you.
You convince yourself that no other man on the planet has the same qualities as him and thus you have two choices: get him back or settle for someone who will never measure up. I hope you can recognize the absurdity of this!
When you go through a breakup, you may be missing the feeling of being loved and cared for. To fill this empty space, surround yourself with people who genuinely care about you and love you for who you are.
A relationship is going to unfold in only one of two ways: it will either last forever or it will fall apart. In order to get the relationship that lasts, you have to come to terms with all the ones that didn’t.
Love is about realistically seeing who the other person is, flaws and all, and appreciating the entire picture. It doesn’t make demands or need things to be a certain way, it grows and flows and creates an environment where both people bring out the best in one another.
My last relationship had instilled a belief in me that I was unworthy of love, that I would never get the guy I wanted, that no man would love the real me … so I sought out guys who weren’t in a place to love anyone, really, and was proven right time and time again.
Your reality is created in large part by your filter system. If you believe that the guys you want will never want you, you will find a justification for this fear even if it’s far from the case.