The number one way to attract love is to make yourself into a vessel that can receive it.
Catalog
Sabrina Alexis
We’re told that love conquers all, but in truth love alone does not make for a good and healthy relationship.
What happened to me is something that happens to many women after a toxic relationship and crushing breakup: I internalized faulty beliefs about myself and never challenged them.
Instead of feeling sorry for myself because I couldn’t get him to commit in the way I wanted, I felt sorry for him for having so many issues, issues that prevented him from committing to a great woman he had right in front of him.
Why was I so wrapped up in getting inside his head? The reason, I believe, is that getting lost in his drama was an escape from dealing with my own.
I realized that with Kevin I felt less alone and maybe a little understood. Like me, he was a little lost and hurt, and that made me feel better in my own world of lost and hurt.
As soon as you’re in that place where you are your best self and you mirror the qualities you want, you’ll notice an instant change in your love life; you’ll find that you can easily get the kind of guy and the kind of relationship you’ve always wanted.
You need to know your values, your boundaries, your fundamental needs, your wants, what you can compromise on, and what your absolute deal-breakers are.
If a guy leaves when things get a little rocky, it means he is lacking in the most important quality you need in a partner, and that is a man who is committed not only to you, but to making it work.
You can’t force someone to change and to want what you want. You can’t convince someone to feel a certain way about you.
Infatuation causes you to fall in love with an image rather than an actual person. It causes you to put someone on a pedestal and overlook his flaws. Since he’s so ‘perfect,’ you become afraid to be yourself— I mean, how could your true self ever compete with perfection?