"To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern:..." — Alain de Botton

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To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.

— Alain de Botton

Status Anxiety

Love Presence Care

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