“You may think he’s being kind and considerate by allowing you to get your say in first, but he’s really just using this as a means to manipulate you. Think about it. If you’re allowed to speak first, he’s going to hear all about what your biggest concern is in what he did and how you’re feeling about it before he has the opportunity to defend himself. Then he can use all of the information you’ve given him in order to craft the perfect excuse.”