“If we want people to agree with us, or at least see our perspective, we have to do the work of convincing them. We can’t shame people into being more loving. We can’t hate people into agreeing with us. We can listen, we can provide them the catharsis of being heard. We can expose ourselves to the vulnerability of being human and explain where we come from. This is the only way we as a community of people can get better, by being honest about what the problem is and not being too-good for the solution. It’s not pretty or easy or quick — we’re probably not even aware of the seeds we plant in people that take years to blossom into new ideas and ways of thinking, but this is the only way people really change.”