"I was making the most common and the most painful mistake wo..." — Elif Shafak

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I was making the most common and the most painful mistake women have made all throughout the ages: to naively think that with their love they can change the man they love.

— Elif Shafak

The Forty Rules of Love: A Novel of Rumi

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