“One choice is to pretend that this isn't your fault, to act like you're a victim, to pretend that you were misunderstood; to pretend you didn't make the choices you did. If you do that, this decision is going to haunt you for the rest of your life. The other choice, the better choice, is to be honest about what happened here. Be honest with yourself and be honest with everyone else. If you're honest about what happened here this can be a mistake that you learn from, a mistake you grow from. It doesn't feel like it right now but you can make this a source of strength for yourself.”