“The more negatively I reacted to my negative feelings, the greater the likelihood I would be starting to set the stage for a neurotic pattern. Imagine, for example, if I hated the feelings and the event so much that I hated myself for causing them. Or if I hated the girls with thoughts like, 'All girls manipulate you,' or 'People love causing others pain.' Both of these lines of thought are understandable negative reactions to the negative feelings. However, they are deeply problematic because they trap me in a negative view of the world, and if I had invested strongly in either line thinking, I would have likely been trapped into a neurotic cycle.”