“We look to books and Buzzfeed quizzes and personality tests and horoscopes to tell us who we might be, to see what others might think, to tell us that we are doing a good job of becoming the kind of person we want to be, and to tell us that it’s okay to be the kind of person that you are. But all of these things are such pale reflections of the indescribably weird and complex thing that is the self.”