“It may take a while for your lover to feel comfortable with you watching him masturbate, but luckily it seems most men find this quite a turn-on. My partner and I began slowly, him masturbating by my side after I had reached orgasm during sex. If you don’t feel comfortable with this, he can bring himself to orgasm under the duvet while you simply kiss and stroke his face. Later, he felt ready for me to watch him, incorporating this voyeurism into our foreplay.”