During a dating rut, you run around with an even busier schedule than normal.

The whole concept of ‘slowing down’ or ‘taking some time to yourself’ when you’re struggling in any area of your life is completely foreign to you. Rather than sit around feeling lonely or sad, you find that you cope much faster and more efficiently if you’re filling your schedule with trips, fun classes, and nights out with friends.

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