“What is at the core of narcissists is not what is often referred to as low self-esteem. I don’t think that is accurate, but something that the people around them say to themselves to mollify their own rage at the narcissist, i.e. 'Oh, they only act that way, because they lack self-esteem.' What is really at the core of narcissists is an instability in their ability to feel and sustain feeling bigger, larger, smarter and more successful than everyone else which they need to feel stable.”