“it's not just about love, but with whom you're compatible regarding your values and what you perceive is really important, because these are the things that come up in life. It could be anything: where you're going to live, how many children, or do you want children? Whose family do you visit on the holidays? These are all things in the real world that you have to work out. When I say compatibility, I mean you're pretty much on the same page about these big things.”