“Deciding how hurt

someone is allowed to be

with your behaviour

is the emotional

equivalent of:

1.

drowning someone

and deciding

how loud

they are allowed

to scream

2.

setting someone on fire

and deciding

how much of a mess

their ashes are allowed

to make

3.

stabbing someone

and deciding

how much

they are allowed

to bleed.

You do not get to

destroy someone

and decide how ruined

they are allowed

to feel.”