“A ‘good girl’ as I have seen it defined: goes to church, marries ‘right,’ dresses modestly, never raises her voice, always smiles, is always friendly and approachable, never curses, doesn’t drink or only drinks the appropriate amount of alcohol, does not gossip, does not stir the pot, and is emotionally available to people but never too emotional herself. A ‘bad girl,’ as I have seen it defined: parties too much, laughs loudly, takes up way too much space, drinks entirely more than deemed acceptable, dresses in ways that would be defined as slutty, walks with too much confidence (like a woman with purpose), and pours their emotions into everything they do.

How we define these good and bad personality types have nothing to do with actual morality but more to do with socially imposed expectations of women.”