“In the right relationship, you don’t feel like you’re walking on eggshells, worrying that you might screw something up. You don’t feel like you have to make it work. You don’t feel like you’re suffocating, wishing and hoping you’ll finally get some sweet relief and be able to breathe again. You aren’t afraid of losing him. In fact, you never even think about the possibility of losing him, because you don’t feel you need to possess him”