“Perform a striptease. While you’re wearing that lacy number, why not put it to good use? Pick your favorite sexy song (‘You Can Leave Your Hat On’ by Joe Cocker and ‘Pony’ by Ginuwine are good choices), turn down the lights, and have your partner sit on a chair or the couch. Trace sexy circles with your hips, bend over and touch your toes, and straddle his lap—bring those moves you’ve seen in movies and music videos to life. If you want to tease him even more, tell him he’s not allowed to touch you until the striptease is over.”