“The real question is: why would a person rather have an enemy than a conversation? Why would they rather see themselves as harassed and transgressed instead of having a conversation that would reveal them as an equal participant in creating conflict? There should be a relief in realizing one is not being persecuted, but actually, in the way we have misconstrued these responsibilities, sadly the relief is in confirming that one has been 'victimized'. It comes with the relieving abdication of responsibility.”