“Be horny. It helps to be really excited, so get ready with tons of foreplay. Whether you go down on each other, engage in some sensual massage or touching, it’s all good as long as it turns you on. Also, try stimulating the area surrounding the anus before diving in with fingers, toys or penises. The anus is nervous, you don’t want to just dive right in or it will tighten up like a clam shell with discomfort and frustration likely ensuing.”