Collision with Reality: What Depth Psychology Can Tell us About Victimhood Culture

- Quilletteby Lisa Marchiano(3 total)

The word “suffer” comes from a Latin word meaning to bear, to carry, or to endure. When we suffer our fate rather than avoiding it, we become actors in our own drama. Suffering becomes part of our personal story, that with which we must wrestle. In the words of Rilke, it is a “harsh hand that kneads…

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Anxiety Victimhood Internal locus of control Suffering

If anxiety is our chief malady, avoidance is its coddling nurse, always ready to assure us we need not risk confrontation with that which makes us uncomfortable.

— Lisa Marchiano, quillette.com

Anxiety Mental Health Victimhood Internal locus of control

An October 2017 New York Times article entitled “Why Are More American Teenagers Than Ever Suffering From Extreme Anxiety?” looked at the rising tide of teen anxiety in the United States. Increasing academic pressures, the advent of smart phones, and ubiquitous social media use were explored as pote…

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Anxiety Mental Health Victimhood Internal locus of control

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