Redefining Realness

: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much Moreby Janet Mock(5 total)

New York Times Bestseller • Winner of the 2015 WOMEN'S WAY Book Prize • Goodreads Best of 2014 Semi-Finalist • Books for a Better Life Award Finalist • Lambda Literary Award Finalist • Time Magazine “30 Most Influential People on the Interne

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Janet Mock (5)

Kindness and compassion are sisters but not twins. One you can buy, the other is priceless.

— Janet Mock, amazon.com

Kindness vs. Compassion

Frankly, I'm not responsible for other people's perceptions and what they consider real or fake. We must abolish the entitlement that deludes us int believing that we have the right to make assumptions about people's identities and project those assumptions onto their genders and bodies.

— Janet Mock, amazon.com

Assumptions

I believe that telling our stories, first to ourselves and then to one another and the world, is a revolutionary act. It is an act that can be met with hostility, exclusion, and violence. It can also lead to love, understanding, transcendence, and community. I hope that my being real with you will h…

— Janet Mock, amazon.com

Storytelling The Importance of Stories

Those parts of yourself that you desperately want to hide and destroy will gain power over you. The best thing to do is face and own them, because they are forever a part of you.

— Janet Mock, amazon.com

Running Away Embrace Yourself Love Yourself

This pervasive idea that trans women deserve violence needs to be abolished. It's a socially sanctioned practice of blaming the victim. We must begin blaming our culture, which stigmatizes, demeans and strips trans women of their humanity.

— Janet Mock, amazon.com

Transsexual Domestic Violence Victim Blaming Transphobia

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