Why Not Me?

From the author of the beloved New York Times bestselling book Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? and the creator and star of The Mindy Project comes a collection of essays that are as hilarious and insight

Characters

Mindy Kaling (5)

I want a guy who wants to curl up on a Friday night and watch Netflix.

— Mindy Kaling, amazon.com

Dating Netflix cuddling H4D-5

What’s so wrong with effort, anyway? It means you care.

— Mindy Kaling, amazon.com

Effort caring H4D-3

If someone really wants to see you, they always find a way. Always.

— Mindy Kaling, amazon.com

Dating Relationships Effort H4D-2

I think when men hear that women want a commitment, they think it means commitment to a romantic relationship, but that's not it. It's a commitment to not floating around anywhere. I want a guy who is entrenched in his own life.

— Mindy Kaling, amazon.com

Work hard, know your shit, show your shit, and then feel entitled. Listen to no one except the two smartest and kindest adults you know, and that doesn't always mean your parents. If you do that, you will be fine.

— Mindy Kaling, amazon.com

Hard Work Parents Advice

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