“I see people my age…getting married to people they’ve known for like a year and a half. A year and a half? Is that enough time to get to know someone to know you want to spend the REST of your life with them? I’ve had sweaters for a year and a half and I was like ‘What the fuck was I doing with this…”— Aziz Ansari, amazon.com
“Marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach gir…”— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, globalcitizen.org
“I have to wonder at what point the people fighting to protect marriage will realize that traditional couples haven’t exactly been doing too good a job of it so far.”— Dan Pearce, amazon.com
“Don't hide behind the Constitution or the Bible. If you're against gay marriage, just be honest, put a scarlet 'H' on your shirt, and say, 'I am a homophobe!”— Henry Rollins, amazon.com
“When you first get married, you have a relationship that’s so important to you, and you’re working on it together. But then you have a kid. And you look at your kid and you go, ‘Holy shit, this is my child. She has my DNA. She has my name. I would die for her.’ And you look at your spouse and go, ‘W…”— Louis C.K, amazon.com
“It has made me better, loving you. It has made me wiser, and easier, and brighter. I used to want a great many things before, and to be angry that I did not have them. Theoretically, I was satisfied. I flattered myself that I had limited my wants. But I was subject to irritation; I used to have morb…”— Henry James, amazon.com
“When I tell you not to marry without love, I do not advise you to marry for love alone - there are many, many other things to be considered.”— Anne Brontë, amazon.com
“Pick someone who gets you. Pick someone who makes you laugh, whose kisses thrill you, who wants the same things you want. You choose the person, but make your commitment not just to them but to the idea of spending your life with them. Divorce is rarely pretty. So pick wisely.”— Ann Brenoff, huffingtonpost.com
“One can begin so many things with a new person! Even begin to be a better man.”— George Eliot, amazon.com
“What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life--to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?”— George Eliot, amazon.com
“I know you're still young but I want you to understand and learn this now. Marriage can wait, education cannot.”— Khaled Hosseini, amazon.com
“The person who is best suited to us is not the person who shares our every taste (he or she doesn’t exist), but the person who can negotiate differences in taste intelligently — the person who is good at disagreement. Rather than some notional idea of perfect complementarity, it is the capacity to t…”— Alain de Botton, nytimes.com
“Choosing whom to commit ourselves to is merely a case of identifying which particular variety of suffering we would most like to sacrifice ourselves for.”— Alain de Botton, nytimes.com
“When somebody else comes along and makes you feel like something special — it’s like catnip. You want more of it. You want to say: ‘Let’s get lunch sometime.’ But in the end, you are what you are no matter how somebody makes you feel. It’s just a feeling.”— Anonymous, facebook.com
“WE need to swap the Romantic view for a tragic (and at points comedic) awareness that every human will frustrate, anger, annoy, madden and disappoint us — and we will (without any malice) do the same to them. There can be no end to our sense of emptiness and incompleteness.”— Alain de Botton, nytimes.com
“We should learn to accommodate ourselves to “wrongness,” striving always to adopt a more forgiving, humorous and kindly perspective on its multiple examples in ourselves and in our partners.”— Alain de Botton, nytimes.com
“Embrace a philosophy of pessimism. Every human will disappoint you, and you'll do the same to them.”— Alain de Botton, nytimes.com