Covert narcissists blind you with their saccharine sweetness: they present the perfect public image, routinely go on their knees to pray, say their mantras on their yoga mats, preach ‘peace and compassion,’ all the while plotting on how to best stab you in the back. In some ways, covert narcissists…
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Narcissists and sociopaths are aware of their actions and the impact of their actions – we know this not only from the voices of narcissists and sociopaths themselves but also in the way they smear their victims and the various methods they use to escape accountability such as gaslighting and projec…
Just because your pain is understandable, doesn’t mean your behavior is acceptable.
Regardless of what our vulnerabilities and wounds are, we do not deserve to be abused or mistreated. Being a trauma survivor does not mean we deserve extra wounding or that we ask for it – quite the contrary. It makes the person who is attempting to wound us by using our past wounds all the more sic…
Covert abuse is often the most horrific abuse there is, because there are no visible battle wounds to verify the abuse – only the aftermath of psychological terror. Furthermore, the victim is labeled as ‘crazy’ whenever they identify the abuse and call it out.’
Toxic people don’t argue with you, they essentially argue with themselves and you become privy to their long, draining monologues. They thrive off the drama and they live for it. Each and every time you attempt to provide a point that counters their ridiculous assertions, you feed them supply. Don’t…
I often wonder why I carry all this guilt When it's you that helped me put up all these walls I've built Shadows stir at night through a crack in the door The echo of a broken child screaming "please no more
Some scars don't hurt. Some scars are numb. Some scars rid you of the capacity to feel anything ever again.
The greater a child’s terror, and the earlier it is experienced, the harder it becomes to develop a strong and healthy sense of self
Abuse manipulates and twists a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Her innocent feelings are belittled or mocked and she learns to ignore her feelings. She can’t afford to feel the full range of feelings in her body while she’s being abused—pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, arousal. So…
Many toxic parents compare one sibling unfavorably with another to make the target child feel that he's not doing enough to gain parental affection. This motivates the child to do whatever the parents want in order to regain their favor. This divide-and-conquer technique is often unleashed against c…
As long as you continue to react so strongly to them, you give them the power to upset you, which allows them to control you.
The truth is, if we rebel in reaction to our parents, we are being controlled just as surely as if we submit.
You may find that you cannot get validation from your mother, but that you can give it to yourself.
— Abigail Trent, Eileen Huxley, Lizzie Duarth, Tina Ejiofor, Annelise Burlett, Paisley: 6 Daughters of Toxic Parents Offer Crucial Insight for Your Self-Healing, amazon.com
A person who experiences romantic insecurity tends to be both anxious and obsessed. For such a person, love is a tempestuous experience, involving a range of emotions: on the one hand, excitement, joy, and sexual arousal; on the other, distress, fear, shame, anger, contempt, and disgust. Everyone fe…
— Carl G Hindy, J. Conrad Schwarz, Archie Brodsky, amazon.com
What I felt is not uncommon among victims of rape or abuse. Rape is such a violation; the feeling of worthlessness is almost universal. It wasn’t my fault. But I was broken. No one would want me anymore.
The cost is self-destruction in the process. The cost is you hurting me to get there. I can't sit here and wait for the respect I deserved this whole time. I can't sit here and wait to be loved, when I'm giving the best of myself. I can't sit here playing a game. It’s like a game of Jumanji. Either…
I’ve found the most tragic aspect of losing loved ones wasn’t the big boom of the fallout, but realizing later how much healthier I was without them.
Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.
He’s an only child and could never understand the delicate joys of sibling abuse.