Most couples don’t get along because they are constantly wishing their spouse was someone else: a better listener, a thriftier spender, a sexier lover, etc. This type of wishful thinking is harmful to your relationship and will only lead to frustration because you can’t change anyone who doesn’t wan…
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The best thing you can do is treat your partner like you would a dog. (Before any protests start, just bear with me for a second.) Just think about it. How do you treat your dog? You don’t expect him to be anything that he’s not, because he is completely authentic. You just expect him to be a dog. H…
The experience of love is created by giving the gift of acceptance and appreciation.
Don’t lose YOU in your search for acceptance by others. Be aware that you will always appear to be a little less than some people prefer you to be, but that most people are unaware that you are so much more than what they see. You are good enough just the way you are. You have nothing to prove to an…
Within the relationship itself, unconditional love is the ability to love the other person as they are in their essence. If you have fallen in love with this person and want to build a lasting relationship with them, then you must view them as a unique individual — not as an extension of yourself. W…
I call it Reality Training: This means recognizing that if you want to be happy, you need to accept people as they are and find ways to deal with how they are, or don’t.
Love is one of the most wonderful emotions that we’re capable of. To be loved means to be cherished for being exactly the person that you are.
The moment we start loving ourselves, we experience shifts—positive shifts. Life begins to move forward with more ease and things begin to magically fall into place. Relationships improve. Health improves. And life begins to feel good—really good—ridiculously good.
In my work as a psychotherapist, I've found that we tend to be ashamed of our most unique, passionate and iconoclastic parts. These aspects of ourselves threaten our safety, but as I explain in my book Deeper Dating, they are the direct path to love and, not incidentally, to personal greatness. When…
My mom always taught me that the first person you should love in this world is yourself — that you should believe in the legitimacy of your own feelings, shouldn't let external doubt become self-doubt, and should dress for yourself instead of others.
Maybe there's a grown-up mean girl or an office stunner who makes your inner 15-year-old feel like hiding in the bathroom until you can slink home under cover of darkness. Screw that. There is at least one thing about you, and probably far more, that is incomparably beautiful: your eyes, your smile,…
It’s a very simple premise—loving yourself. I’ve been criticized for being too simplistic, and I have found that the simple things are usually the most profound.
You don’t have to be different to be worthy. Your worth is in your true nature, a core of love and inner goodness. You are a beautiful light. You are love. We can bury our magnificence, but it’s impossible to destroy.
Our judgments of others are often a result of our personal criticisms. If I stop putting pressure on myself to do things the ‘right’ way, I’ll also stop putting pressure on others as well. Not judging myself or others is a crucial step to acceptance.
What if—stay with me here—a woman decided that she was enough? What if, somehow, a woman decided she liked all of who she was? What if she looked in the mirror and thought she was just ravishing? What on Earth is wrong with that?
After this relationship ended, I truly learned the value of loving myself, and I found that with my newfound confidence, I was a much happier person out of the relationship than I had ever been when I was in it.
It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.