“There has to be a moment at the beginning when you wonder whether you’re in love with the person or in love with the feeling of love itself.”— David Levithan, amazon.com
“If your partner is exhibiting inappropriate behavior with people outside of your relationship as a way to control you, punish you, or dictate your relationship, then they are emotionally abusing you and breaking your trust at the same time.”— Elizabeth Enochs, bustle.com
“It's inadvisable to marry someone who was cheating in an affair with you — when you're the spouse, you'll get cheated on. People who feel entitled to sex any way they can get it will always rationalize cheating and just keep doing it”— Tina B. Tessina, sheknows.com
“So when a secret affair is revealed, it’s devastating, destructive, and something we all would like to avoid -- but it’s also a moment that can make us finally, fully honest about what’s been missing, and what’s worth saving.”— Anna Sale, wnyc.org
“My husband and I had been together for so long and I came to realize that he in a lot of ways had stopped paying attention. I think to a certain extent we were both sort of invisible to each other.”— Sheri, wnyc.org
“It became more painful to not do it and to just test the waters and say, maybe this is the only guy that I’ll ever be in love with and for me to deny myself that -- that would be terrible.”— Ali, wnyc.org
“Having an affair seems like such a big decision. Of course, it’s really a series of small choices.”— Anna Sale, wnyc.org