“He did everything right. I’ve learned not to trust men who do things right.”— Jade Quinn, spilledmilkmagazine.com
“When is the last time you made a woman feel uncomfortable? Do you touch women without asking? Do you expect praise for basic decency? Do you use your ‘feminism’ to seduce women and/or get them to trust you? When is the last time you challenged a friend spouting misogynistic crap? Do you get defensiv…”— Mahroh Jahangiri, feministing.com
“Nothing more attractive than a man who teaches you things without making you feel like you’re dumb for not knowing it already.”— hipsterpostings, hipsterpostings.tumblr.com
“If a boy don’t have a personality just take the L and move on sis it’s not worth it”— 8hy, 8hy.tumblr.com
“Want to know if a suitor respects women? Don't ask about yourself. Ask how they feel about sex workers, dancers, exes they've slept with.”— Shakira Sison, twitter.com
“whoever you’re with, it’s important that you are inspired. be it growth emotionally, spiritually, mentally or artistically. this is a must.”— malanda., twitter.com
“When you decide to be with someone, make sure you know/explore/unpack how they were raised. Many folks are raised on survival, not love.”— THEakasha, twitter.com
“A guy once told me "a man is only insecure about a woman when he knows she deserves better" and that really hit me.”— ALMOND, twitter.com
“you respect women? cute. but do you respect trans women? fat women? disabled women? hoes and hood rats too? just curious.”— azizA, twitter.com
“If he likes you, he will reply as fast as he can even if he’s busy.”— E.J. Cenita, baekebyan.tumblr.com
“As a teenager Valentine’s Day was a stressful time. Either I didn’t have a ‘girlfriend’ and was forced to endure a day of hearts, cards and stuffed animals parading through my loneliness or even worse I had a ‘girlfriend’ and felt pressure to provide just the right combination of cards, candy and st…”— Aaron Blaylock, amazon.com
“You feel like you could introduce him to your friends tomorrow and they’d get along seamlessly. You don’t have to worry if your friends will like him or make excuses for his behavior once they do.”— Ono Bello, onobello.com
“Boyfriend Material will be interested in seeing you but there won’t be an unrealistic sense of urgency to the dates. He will want to make a plan that works for both of you, and there will be a natural progression to spending more time together and that includes weekend dates.”— Deanna Cobden, eligiblemagazine.com
“He goes to weddings with you. Let me be very blunt here: if the guy you’re dating doesn’t want to go to a wedding with you, it’s because he doesn’t see you as potential girlfriend material.”— Cassandra Lane, youqueen.com
“If your man owns a pet, it’s fair to say that he’s probably responsible. After all, he has to feed it, water it, walk it, play with it and well, love it. So if he loves a furry friend, the chances are high he’s able to love you too.”— Cassandra Lane, youqueen.com
“A man that is emotionally available and ready for a relationship will take pride in his home. He could live with his parents, with a group of friends or by himself, but the key element is that he doesn’t expect anyone to clean up after him or cook for him.”— Cassandra Lane, youqueen.com
“He has personal relationships with depth. One way to see if this new guy is boyfriend material is to look at the kind of people he surrounds himself with. If he respects his mom, chances are he’ll respect you. If he has a close relationship with his siblings and they consider him super uncle to his…”— Kara Pound, datingadvice.com
“Being an all-around, genuinely nice guy is a key element to determining boyfriend material. Is your future beau even-keeled and even-tempered? Does he treat people with respect and non-judgment? Does he volunteer his time or funds in some capacity?”— Kara Pound, datingadvice.com