“You used to be a cheater. You’re not one now. Here’s the rule: Once you cheat, you MUST know why it happened so that it will NEVER happen again. You didn’t cheat because you’re a horrible person. You cheated because you couldn’t deal with horrible feelings. Cheating is just a symptom of something de…”— Harlan Cohen, harlancohen.com
“If the person you are interested in has made mistakes in past relationships and admits to them, and also acknowledges that these poor choices hurt the people he or she cared about, then that is a good beginning. Assuming that you believe that this person is sincere, this acceptance of responsibility…”— eHarmony, eharmony.com
“You see the question is not "Can I ever trust him again"? but rather, "What contributed to this person's choice to betray me - why did they choose infidelity"? The first question is an unanswerable one as trusting your partner following an affair has more to do with YOU and how YOU choose to respond…”— Jay Kent-Ferraro, psychologytoday.com
“My inner fuckboy took a one-way trip to another universe exactly 123 days ago, when I decided to stop being a dick because I met a girl who deserves the best. She's the love of my life, and I plan on giving her my personal best for the long haul.”— Anonymous Guy, thoughtcatalog.com
“One day a few months back my little sister came home from school balling. I asked her what was up and she said this guy she’d been crushing on who’d been flirting with her non-stop suddenly stopped Snapping her back and refused to acknowledge her in the hallway—like it was nbd. I wanted to kill the…”— Anonymous Guy, thoughtcatalog.com
“A few years ago I was dating lots of women simultaneously, ditching anyone who demanded ‘girlfriend status’ and literally picking their replacement on Tinder the next day. I actually logged girls into my phone with notes about what they looked like because it got too hard to remember who was who. On…”— Anonymous Guy, thoughtcatalog.com
“Thinking back on the way I treated women as a young adult, I can’t believe I ever got laid. But I did. A lot. Then at 28, I got laid off from my job as an advertising exec. Walking home midday, in the depressingly empty streets, I realized that I had nothing. Sure, I had a few thousand dollars saved…”— Anonymous Guy, thoughtcatalog.com
“People are as varied in libido as they are in shape, size, and color. Some are legitimately addicted to sex while others identify as asexual and the rest fall somewhere in between. I’m guessing you wouldn’t recommend that a sex addict search for love in a nunnery, so why settle down with someone mil…”— Mélanie Berliet, thoughtcatalog.com
“Time to to apply my personal methodology for dealing with a less serious, but still huge (to me) temptation: shopping. Because I'm somewhat addicted to buying new clothes whether or not my budget permits it, I've come up with a personal rule to prevent really poor decisions. When faced with a purcha…”— Gena Kaufman, glamour.com
“It's crucial to figure out why you cheated in the first place in order to prevent it from happening again. For example, after a few weeks of therapy post ex-breakup, it became clear to me that one of my biggest emotional triggers is when someone cancels plans on me at the last minute. So, in my curr…”— Rebecca Santiago, bustle.com
“I want to change. I’m totally in love with her and I want to marry her and I want her to be the mother of my children and I want to be the man that I always wanted to be. I never imagined myself cheating on my wife, and I don’t plan on doing that. And I haven’t cheated on her since we’ve gotten enga…”— Anonymous Guy, nymag.com
“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were ar…”— Lisa Kleypas, amazon.com
“Guess what? David Burtka and I got married over the weekend. In Italy. Yup, we put the 'n' and 'd' in 'husband'.”— Neil Patrick Harris, twitter.com
“On my way to the fancy Met Ball with the ever handsome David Burtka. Looking forward to a very James Bond evening.”— Neil Patrick Harris, twitter.com
“All marriages go through ups and downs, and I believe this is the natural consequence of couples that choose to stay together over the long haul.”— Nicholas Sparks, amazon.com
“He puts his hands under her knees and maneuvers her carefully so that her bottom rests on the edge of the settee. He slips his fingers underneath the worn elastic of her panties that are strung across the points of her hips, slips them to her ankles and softly draws apart her knees and feels again a…”— Nick Cave, amazon.com
“Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.”— Nicholas Sparks, amazon.com
“The person who is best suited to us is not the person who shares our every taste (he or she doesn’t exist), but the person who can negotiate differences in taste intelligently — the person who is good at disagreement. Rather than some notional idea of perfect complementarity, it is the capacity to t…”— Alain de Botton, nytimes.com