“Inciting jealousy. If someone has a partner with them, whether it is a long term partner or a casual date, do not flirt with them – they are taken even if only for that evening.”— Fran Creffield, eharmony.co.uk
“Teasing. There is a fine line between flirting and giving someone the come on: one thing no-one likes is a tease. It is unfair to play with someone’s emotions and give them the impression that they are on to a good thing if you have no intention of following through.”— Fran Creffield, eharmony.co.uk
“Taking it too seriously. Flirting is fun. Not everyone who flirts with you will be interested in having a relationship with you and an essential part of engaging in the art is to not get too attached to everyone who flirts with you.”— Fran Creffield, eharmony.co.uk
“Angling away from the other person. Keeping our feet pointed towards a person sends out a signal that we're interested.”— Toria Sheffield, bustle.com
“Waiting too long to text. Waiting days to text someone you like back because you don't want to seem uncool or overeager can actually just send the message that you're not interested. So if you like someone, don't be afraid to show it.”— Toria Sheffield, bustle.com
“Crossing your arms. Instead, try keeping your posture loose and relaxed, or make sure you're always holding a drink to keep your body language open.”— Toria Sheffield, bustle.com
“Flirting in a professional setting. This is a big mistake. This may include a company party or professional banquet. Flirting in these situations can be taken the wrong way, and may cause people to view you differently in your career, leading to negative consequences within your job.”— Devon Brown, yourtango.com
“Being too clingy. If you just met him, do not get jealous or clingy if he starts talking to another female. He will think you are a psycho.”— Devon Brown, yourtango.com
“Be careful not to be mean-spirited. You don't want to offend him or embarrass him in front of other people. Teasing a guy about something he says or does is different than challenging his manhood.”— Devon Brown, yourtango.com
“Filling the empty silences with blabber about nothing. I'm hugely prone to this one - I hate silence, so I chatter through it. Instead of doing that, simply let the silence be.”— Aunt Becky, thestir.cafemom.com
“Getting too touchy-feely. If you're flirting with him, a casual hand on the arm for a couple of seconds is good. What's NOT good is to feel the guy up. It's not sexy on a first date.”— Aunt Becky, thestir.cafemom.com
“Acting bitchy. Dudes don't dig bitchy women. So rather than complaining about your job, your roommate, your best friend's sister's boyfriend's girlfriend, be positive about your life. It's a good one!”— Aunt Becky, thestir.cafemom.com
“It’s important to offer details about your life, because that’s part of the dance, but make sure not to share too much, dear. Some things should be saved until you know someone a bit more, and some things should just be saved. For example: don’t let him in on your nighttime regimen, the gas milk giv…”— Nicole Akoukou Thompson, madamenoire.com
“You should never follow someone around or continuously make an effort to be where he is. First of all, it takes too much energy to physically stalk people (that’s what Facebook is for…kidding!), and you could spend that energy doing something productive; secondly, it makes you look really desperate.”— Nicole Akoukou Thompson, madamenoire.com
“Being too sexually suggestive. While it’s all right to show a bit of flesh and tease a bit, you never want to lure a man with pure sexual innuendo because, to put it nicely, he might think that you’re a hoe, and that you would be down for taking things back to his place (and hitting the bedroom). Er…”— Nicole Akoukou Thompson, madamenoire.com
“Playing games. Playing hard to get is a silly game, but if a woman decides to do it and take it really seriously, it stops being fun. It has to be about give and take. If there’s no give and all take, it’s not fun. And if there’s one thing guys want when flirting, it’s to have fun.”— Jason Epstein, brobible.com
“Too much eye contact. Did you know that having too much eye contact can actually make you seem a little creepy? While coyly catching his eye or even just getting a glimpse of his eyes is a great way to get him to approach you, don't stare ladies.”— Heather Jensen, love.allwomenstalk.com
“Talking too much. Girls, you've got to give the guy you are flirting with some time to talk too! Otherwise, he might think that you aren't at all interested in what he has to say.”— Heather Jensen, love.allwomenstalk.com