“At every turn, women are taught that how someone reacts to them does more to establish their goodness and worth than anything they themselves might feel.”— Lili Loofbourow, theweek.com
“One side effect of teaching one gender to outsource its pleasure to a third party (and endure a lot of discomfort in the process) is that they're going to be poor analysts of their own discomfort, which they have been persistently taught to ignore.”— Lili Loofbourow, theweek.com
“This is also how women are taught to be good hosts. To subordinate their desires to those of others. To avoid confrontation.”— Lili Loofbourow, theweek.com
“There was potential with Grace’s story: the conversations that followed could have given us a real shot at cracking away at the imbalanced sexual power structures that plague us—the power structures that tell us a man’s desires are more significant than a woman’s, and that conditioned Grace not to “…”— Julianne Escobedo Shepherd, jezebel.com