“Disclosing your STI lets your partner know that they can trust you. You’ll be amazed by what they might tell you once that trust is established.”— Ella Dawson, elladawson.com
“I’m surprised to learn that most people share the same seven sex fantasies. Why are we so ashamed of what makes us simply human then?”— Sex Diaries, thecut.com
“desire is something you can fake and make and mold and carve Desire creates more desires and the quickest way to feel desired is to be someone who desires.”— Chrissy Stockton, thoughtcatalog.com
“Fantasizing is normal and healthy, the important thing is that we're honest about how it impacts our real-world sex life.”— Vanessa Marin, allure.com
“Sometimes I wonder if part of the reason I’m so into S is because he fits the vision I had for my life in New York. Dressing up, going to clubs I can’t afford, and being the chill, hot girl. He’s already shown me a side of the city that I wouldn’t have seen otherwise.”— Sex Diaries, thecut.com
“If you sit someone down and tell them solemnly that you want to propose something to them, and then that something is access to your dick, not only are they probably going to say no, but now you’ve made it weird.”— Sophia Benoit, gq.com
“Our fantasies have a very deep connection to both our sexual histories and our personalities.”— Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D., goop.com
“The idea of a truly transparent relationship that lacked emotional commitment sounded like a welcome relief, a rebound at its finest.”— Lisa Hoehn, marieclaire.com
“In my 20s, in a weird way, every alcohol-doused dalliance that didn’t result in violating whatever vague definition of consensual sex I was operating on confirmed to me that what had happened to me as a teenager was not my fault.”— Minda Honey, longreads.com