You know, that's the burden of having a parent. They haven't a clue what they're doing. And every mistake they make chips away at us. As we get older, we got to glue the pieces back together. And we can blame them. But here's the thing. They're human. They make mistakes.
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Quotes tagged ‘Toxic Parents’
To be a child of snobs deserves its own taxonomy, treatment and pathway to health. Part of this involves overcoming anger towards one’s carers – and realising that snobs are not evil, merely wounded.
I love the way she survived. Survival looked good on her. There were no dark marks under her eyes. Maybe deep inside, but I liked the way she looked through them and laughed at life. She did it gracefully. She’d walk over glass and through fire, but still smiled. And honestly, I’m not interested in…
I often wonder why I carry all this guilt When it's you that helped me put up all these walls I've built Shadows stir at night through a crack in the door The echo of a broken child screaming "please no more
It's not your fault.
Unfortunately, because emotional abuse is often tolerated or because the abusive parents are very secretive in their abuse (hiding their true selves when in public), emotionally abused children will assume that how they were treated at home was natural. They have no frame of reference. And so, the c…
Some scars don't hurt. Some scars are numb. Some scars rid you of the capacity to feel anything ever again.
The greater a child’s terror, and the earlier it is experienced, the harder it becomes to develop a strong and healthy sense of self
Abuse manipulates and twists a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Her innocent feelings are belittled or mocked and she learns to ignore her feelings. She can’t afford to feel the full range of feelings in her body while she’s being abused—pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, arousal. So…
Many toxic parents compare one sibling unfavorably with another to make the target child feel that he's not doing enough to gain parental affection. This motivates the child to do whatever the parents want in order to regain their favor. This divide-and-conquer technique is often unleashed against c…
You have had such a deep hunger for real human contact for such a long time that when it is offered, you consume it ravenously. Such clinging and highly dependent behavior eventually forces the other person to reject you, and you take this as further proof that you are unlovable.
You isolate yourself to keep others from finding out about your abusive past.
Fighting became a way of life and seemed perfectly normal for your family.
There was little respect in your family for your personal belongings, either, which are an extension of our personal boundaries. Our parents may have sold, thrown out, or given away without your knowledge or consent things that belonged to you. This lack of respect left you with an unstable sense of…
Adult children of toxic parents have an especially difficult time with their anger because they grew up in families where emotional expression was discouraged. Anger was something only parents had the privilege of displaying.
You must let go of the responsibility for the painful events of your childhood and put it where it belongs.
You are an adult and can withstand your discomfort for the purpose of becoming your own person.
As long as you continue to react so strongly to them, you give them the power to upset you, which allows them to control you.
The truth is, if we rebel in reaction to our parents, we are being controlled just as surely as if we submit.
Direct control usually involves intimidation and is frequently humiliating. Your feelings and needs must be subordinated to those of your parents. You are dragged into a bottomless pit of ultimatums. Your opinion is worthless; your needs and desires are irrelevant. The imbalance of power is tremendo…