“You might argue that Ron is a batterer and that any language that softens or obscures this fact leaves him less accountable for his actions, but Ron will be more likely to accept responsibility and feel remorse if he can view himself as more than a batterer. For people to look squarely at their harm…”— Brené Brown, amazon.com
“Are we using shame as punishment because we think it will foster real change in people? Or are we shaming others because it feels good to make people suffer when we are in fear, anger, or judgment?”— Brené Brown, amazon.com
“The time has come to explore the possibility that we are safer in a world where people aren't mired in shame.”— Brené Brown, amazon.com
“It didn't take very long for me to reach the conclusion that there is nothing positive about shame. In any form, in any context and through any delivery system, shame is destructive. The idea that there are two types, healthy shame and toxic shame, did not bear out in any of my research.”— Brené Brown, amazon.com
“Take the case of Nikolas Cruz, or any other proven school shooter. Arresting him earlier in the process might have delayed a violent outcome by a few years years, but likely wouldn’t have solved any underlying problem.”— Paul DeBenedetto, theoutline.com
“It would be like the scene in Sweet Smell of Success where the baby-faced challenger stands up to the terrible and powerful gossip columnist who treats people like playthings: “The terrible thing about people like you is that decent people have to become so much like you in order to stop you— in ord…”— Ryan Holiday, amazon.com
“I love Bill Cosby, and I love what he’s done for the world. But if he’s sick, why would I be angry with him?”— Erykah Badu, vulture.com
“If we all worshipped gravity, there would be no disagreements over which way it pulled.”— Dan Brown, amazon.com
“Historically, the most dangerous men on the earth were men of God...especially when their gods became threatened.”— Dan Brown, amazon.com
“It may be worth considering whether middle-class American life -- for all it's material good fortune -- has lost some essential sense of unity that might otherwise discourage alienated men from turning apocalyptically violent.”— Sebastian Junger, amazon.com
“These are not ordinary kids who were bullied into retaliation...These are not ordinary kids who played too many video games. These are not ordinary kids who just wanted to be famous. These are simply not ordinary kids. These are kids with serious psychological problems.”— Peter Langman, usatoday30.usatoday.com
“Though they can be, strangers aren’t always strange. They’re often just people, a lot like you.”— Giancarlo DiTrapano, thoughtcatalog.com
“What I've learned in my life is if someone is acting badly, they're in pain. It's a really simple rule, they're either scared or in pain.”— Sebastian Junger, youtube.com
“Evil people never believe that they are evil; rather, they believe that everyone else is evil.”— Mark Manson, amazon.com
“All conflict can be traced back to someone's feelings getting hurt, don't you think?”— Liane Moriarty, amazon.com
“Very often God seems to come in moments of failure or shame. For example, Father Zossima tells how in his youth, for no good reason, he savagely beat his orderly. The next morning he sees with utter clarity that he has beaten a helpless, innocent man. He’s overwhelmed with sorrow and shame, and he b…”— Doug Frank, theotherjournal.com
“The only real difference between racist, sexist people and those who are not is the conscious effort that the latter make to counteract their learned-in-childhood, unconscious prejudices.”— Elaine N. Aron, amazon.com
“We're all savages inside. We all want to be the chosen, the beloved, the esteemed.”— Cheryl Strayed, amazon.com
“When you find somebody like, let's say, Ted Bundy, who tortured and killed all those women and sometimes went back and had sex with the dead bodies, I don't think when you look at his upbringing... That behavior was hard-wired. Evil is inside us. The older I get, the less I think there's some sort o…”— Stephen King, rollingstone.com