20 Reasons You're Still Hung-Up Over Your Ex And Not Moving On

“They cling to the belief that since they never experienced anything like that before, they never will again.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“You convince yourself that no other man on the planet has the same qualities as him and thus you have two choices: get him back or settle for someone who will never measure up.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“As a result, when a relationship ends it’s not just the other person that’s missing; a lot of pieces of yourself also need to be retrieved.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“You won’t find someone with his exact qualities … you will find someone even better and more compatible with you.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Most people confuse true love with infatuation even though these two concepts couldn’t be more different.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Infatuation usually happens because you have a void in your life that he fills. You don’t feel good enough about yourself and this supreme being shows interest in you, making you feel desirable and worthy, and so you cling to him for more of that feeling.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“His approval makes you feel OK … it makes you feel ‘good enough,’ at least temporarily. Since he gives you something you need so desperately, you become terrified of losing him, and then the panic sets in … what if he loses interest? How can I keep him?”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“You’re in a relationship where you’re not being treated the way you want, yet you can’t tear yourself away. So you stay.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“You let him get away with as much bad behavior as he wants because you’re too afraid to call him out on it and risk losing him.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Selling yourself out means accepting behavior that you would otherwise consider unacceptable, or attempting to be someone you’re not. Maybe you don’t speak up anymore, maybe you aren’t the same bubbly, confident person you once were, or maybe you unquestioningly put him and his needs above your own.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“When these relationships end, you will often feel like a piece of you is missing, like you aren’t whole. It’s a miserable, almost sickening feeling. You might feel like getting him back is the only cure, but it’s not.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Most of the time, it’s not the guy you’re missing … it’s the feelings you experienced when you were with him. You miss the intimacy, the closeness, the feeling of being desired and admired. You miss the way he made you feel more than who he actually is.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“When you go through a breakup, you may be missing the feeling of being loved and cared for. To fill this empty space, surround yourself with people who genuinely care about you and love you for who you are. Focus on rebuilding your life in a way that makes you feel fulfilled and content with who you…”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“And when ‘everything’ leaves, you’re left with nothing. You feel empty, like a piece of you is missing.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“The process of finding those lost pieces of yourself starts with rebuilding your life and making it full and balanced without him.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“A lot of the time, the pain we feel after a breakup is really the throb of a severely bruised ego. Rejection hurts.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Most women seem to develop selective amnesia after a relationship ends whereby they only remember the good times and completely ignore everything that went on the rest of the time.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Be real with yourself and honest about the relationship. Remind yourself of the reasons why it didn’t work, instead of going over what you could have or should have done differently in order to make it work. Chances are, it would have ended no matter what you did differently.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Not every relationship is meant to stand the test of time so don’t think of it as the end of something, think of it as just the beginning of your journey towards finding the right one.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Breakups don’t happen because of small details, they occur because the two individuals in their entirety simply weren’t a match. No amount of ruminating will change this so it’s best to just accept it and move forward.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com