“You’ll treat someone terribly. Whether it be to a lover or your friend, there’ll be someone whose feelings you take for granted. We focus too much on whether or not someone is hurting us. The reality is that we might actually be the one who’s hurting someone.”— Ryan O'Connell, Ryan O'Connell, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: Love, Relationships, Pain
“Life is so messy and difficult. The best you can really hope for is that you have a friend who anchors you and makes you feel safe. It helps if this friend has really great hair too.”— Ryan O'Connell, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: Friendship, Love, Best Friends, Friends
“There are so many people in this world who make you feel like an alien. When you find someone who "gets it," you don't take it for granted.”— Ryan O'Connell, amazon.comTagged: Friendship, Relationships, People, Love
“You can only really grow when you start being honest with yourself about who you are in the first place.”— Ryan O’Connell, amazon.comTagged: Growth, Honesty, Self-Acceptance, Life, Change
“Having self-love is like nurturing a plant. If you don't take the time to water it, if you start to skip days and get distracted, it will die.”— Ryan O'Connell, amazon.comTagged: Self-Love, Growth, Persistence
“Getting angry at the world for your problems isn't going to bring you any closer to a dream job or relationship or whatever else you feel like you deserve. It's going to keep you thousands of miles away from it.”— Ryan O'Connell, amazon.comTagged: Anger, Life, Growth, Relationships, Jobs
“I was starting to understand that nothing in this life is owed to me and that it's quite possible to sabotage yourself if you don't pay attention.”— Ryan O'Connell, amazon.com
“College is about figuring out who you are, and in order to do that, you need to become a lot of people you aren’t.”— Ryan O'Connell, amazon.comTagged: Personality, Self-Actualization, College, Identity, Experimentation
“You can try on different personalities like they're clothing for as long as you want, but I guarantee that the outfit you were originally wearing will always be the one that fits best.”— Ryan O'Connell, amazon.comTagged: Personality, Self-Acceptance, Growing Up
“Looking at what my father had written, I realized a comforting truth: being a fuckup in your twenties is totally timeless.”— Ryan O'Connell, amazon.comTagged: humor, Hot Mess, Twenties