The Only 50 Things You Need To Know About Men Before Dating

“Put your focus on liking yourself and believing the types of guys you like will like you back.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“Healthy relationships don’t come about through obsession or force or analysis. They just evolve effortlessly.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“If you are with a guy and feel like you have to constantly watch what you say or do, then that is a big sign he’s not the right guy for you.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“Why would you even want to be with someone who doesn’t want you enough to go after you full force? You want a man who wants you so badly that he isn’t going to leave any sliver of empty space for some other guy to swoop in and snatch you up.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“When a guy likes you, it's obvious.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“If you're worrying about or analyzing whether or not he likes you, you already have your answer.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“What women call ‘mixed messages’ are actually one very clear message: He doesn’t want to be with you.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“When a guy is sending confusing signals, it usually means he’s somewhat interested… but not enough.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“When you're in the wrong relationship, you're stuck in your head thinking about it. When you're in the right relationship, the impulse to worry or analyze doesn't cross your mind because you're too busy enjoying it and enjoying your life.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“Discover his values, his motivations, what he wants out of life and how he goes about achieving it, and appreciate him for these things.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“When you express appreciation to a man for the things he does, he will do even more. That’s because appreciation taps into the deepest core of a man. It’s not just about saying ‘thank you’ when he does something nice, although that’s important. Really appreciating a man comes down to seeing who he t…”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“A man also needs to feel like his girl has his best interests at heart — that she can give him space when he needs it, doesn't always prioritize her needs over his, and respects his wishes.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“An important thing to realize is that often when we feel upset or disappointed by a guy, it’s actually a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. We don’t feel good about ourselves and we want him to give us assurances that we are worthy and lovable, to prop up our sense of self-worth. When he doe…”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“The reason most of us have such a hard time pushing past a man’s walls and reaching him deeply is that we fixate on our own wants, our own worries, our own fears, our own needs, and pay no attention to how he feels and experiences things.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“When it comes to relationship fears, most women fear being unworthy of love while men typically fear not being good enough.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“Being brought down destroys us, and the feeling of being rejected is so crappy we would rather avoid it, even if that means losing a potential opportunity. If I'm out and see one girl in the room I'm interested in but think she'll reject me, I won't even bother,”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“Most girls don't realize how anxiety provoking it is for a man to just approach a girl and give it a shot. It can’t be easy to constantly put yourself out there and risk rejection and feeling like a failure. When a man wants a woman and she rejects him, he feels that loss deeply.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“That’s really all you need to do. Show interest, maintain eye contact, be happy, and if he likes you, he’ll take the bait and move things forward. If he doesn’t, then he’s not interested, and you should move on. Remember: When a guy likes you, it’s obvious!”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“The worst thing you can do is to try to turn him into what you need him to be.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“For a man to really feel good about himself in a relationship, he needs to be with a woman who sees what he has to offer and appreciates it.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“It’s not what you say, it’s the way you say it. When you come at a man from a blaming or accusatory place, he will automatically shut down. But when you approach him from a place of love and compassion, he will rise up and want to do whatever you ask and more.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“Men are not as good at picking up on hints and nuances as women are. If you want him to do something, just tell him directly in a kind and loving way. No blaming, no shaming, no guilt-tripping, just be open and direct. That’s it!”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“Nagging is the number one way not to get what you want.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“Girls have to be patient. Men are dumb, we're oblivious, we're not always in tune to a girl's feelings. It’s not because we don't want to be, we do want to be, we just need guidance. Tell me where to go and I'll take you there. I don’t need a girl to make it happen, I can do that. I just need some d…”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“Happiness isn't owed to you, and it doesn't come from your relationship. You create your own sense of happiness and fulfillment.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“If you believe that a man holds the key to your happiness, you are laying the groundwork for difficult relationships and chronic dissatisfaction.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“If a man believes he is winning in the relationship more than he ever could on his own, then he will commit. If he feels as though being in the relationship shuts down his ability to win (and feel like a winner) and that he would have an easier time outside the relationship, then that’s when commitm…”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“When a woman is needy, she isn’t receptive to what a man gives her because she’s always desperate for more.”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“The sad fact is, most people are starving to connect in a real and genuine way. They want to be their authentic selves and feel loved for who they are. They want to be supported by someone who is their partner. At the same time, they are terrified that they don’t really deserve these things, or that…”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com

“It’s not that men don’t want to commit, it’s that men resent being backed into a corner and forced into something. It’s not a matter of him not wanting to be official with you, or not wanting the relationship to progress, or not wanting to give you the love and affection you need, it’s the feeling t…”

— Sabrina Alexis, Eric Charles, amazon.com