“Optimizing precious moments with a lover is a balancing act, so he’s counting minutes. ‘It won’t raise any red flags if I’m home by 6:00pm on the dot,’ he rationalizes. Or, ‘If I call her every day at noon, she won’t get suspicious.’ He’s drawing timelines in the sand, and being uncharacteristically prompt or oddly ritualized with his schedule may be one way he does that.”