“Don’t do anything too complicated to start with. You’re trying to have fun not earn a merit badge for your Shibari knot work. Tease your lover’s senses with a blindfold and an ice cube or a feather. Try tying your partner’s hands together with paper streamers or something else that they can easily escape. Look for handcuffs that come with padding around the wrists and use Velcro instead of keys.”