“The notion that we are all beholden to one another was terrifying, because I always felt insufficient to the task. But eventually a very simple thing dawned on me: I felt insufficient because I was repeatedly, through my choices and actions, failing to meet the minimum requirements of being a person who cares for others. Being a fuck-up is not a matter of ontology but a matter of ethics, i.e. — it’s not who you are but what you do.”