“I am going to share an insight it took me altogether too long to realize. When you’re in your early twenties and older men are interested in you, it is not a flattering reflection of your own wit or intelligence or maturity. Rather, it’s more likely an indication that these men have neither the…”Tagged: Dating, Love, 20-Somethings, Older men
“I’m not sure I have many valuable lessons to take into my next relationship, but I am confident I can handle making breakfast.”Tagged: Love, Divorce, Marriage, Leaving
“The knowledge that I had made a mistake in marrying this man didn’t come to me quickly. It was slow and oblique and easy to avoid confronting head-on. Perhaps the problem was that I didn’t like my job. Perhaps buying a house would fix things.”Tagged: Marriage, Women, Relationships
“The notion that we are all beholden to one another was terrifying, because I always felt insufficient to the task. But eventually a very simple thing dawned on me: I felt insufficient because I was repeatedly, through my choices and actions, failing to meet the minimum requirements of being a person…”Tagged: Messing Up, human, Behavior, Behavioral Psychology
“You have in no way missed the window on finding a satisfying career or a stable relationship, if those are things that you want. And that’s a question you should spend some time with. Do you actually want a life like the ones the people you follow on social media are pretending to have (because…”Tagged: Failure, late bloomers, Success, How to be a writer, Instagram
“A relationship coming to an end when I wanted it to continue is quite bad, but discovering that other people knew it would be ending long before I did is intolerable.”Tagged: Betrayal, Being blindsided, Relationships, Dating Advice, Advice
“People think they want the truth, of course — but that is simply not borne out by human experience, which is really just a series of hypocrisies.”Tagged: Honesty, Life, Reality TV, Perception
“In truth I doubt I’ve been ready for anything in my life. Especially for things to end, which I have been thinking about a great deal lately.”Tagged: therapy, Dating, Self-awareness, Baggage, Healing
“It is no brave thing to stand with the powerful against those who dare live differently, it’s the easiest and most comfortable choice you can make.”Tagged: Alt-Right, TERF, Terfs, bigotry
“When these thoughts first appear, they seem impossible—until they aren’t.”Tagged: Biological Clock, kids, Intrusive Thoughts
“Grief has become a sort of all-encompassing buzzword of late, as a way to capture the feeling of living through calamity, but I don’t think we should be so quick to call that feeling one of grieving.”Tagged: Guilt, Grief
“What a treat—like a perfectly flaky croissant brought to me in bed by a woman who wears a vintage robe but in a way that makes it look fresh and casual rather than hopelessly affected.”Tagged: Perfectionism, Life, Imposter Syndrome
“I hope this awful bitch I worked with years ago can never find jeans that really work on her, and also that she may have unfettered access to abortion services should she need them.”Tagged: feminism, Women
“There are not hundreds of women accusing Allen, not 60, nor 10, just one. One little girl who you can see worshipping her father in home movies, who you can see suffering to this day because people still worship her father.”Tagged: Woody Allen, Abuse, Dylan Farrow