“Create a fantasy. For more than a decade, I've fantasized about hooking up with a stranger in a bathroom stall. Like "hike up my skirt and slam me against the wall while you penetrate me from behind" kind of fucking. Preferably with some hair pulling. Sex with strangers is a common fantasy and far less kinky than most of the thoughts in my mental Rolodex of smut. It's fueled countless orgasms, so it's a reliable go-to. Give yourself permission to think about whatever you have to think about to get off.”