“Lie down on your bed and use a mirror to look at your private and intimate places. Gently spread your labia: you may want to use a spot of lubrication There are very nice modern ones that increase the sensuousness of the occasion – such as Liquid Silk (£9.99). But if you don't have any lubrication, use saliva. Try to tighten and relax the muscles at the base of the pelvis.”