“Here’s something I don’t feel is often discussed when we talk about anal sex: It can actually be really intimate. A friend of mine who’s married swears that her and her husband’s increased regularity of anal sex has made their sex life far more exciting and satisfying, and has brought them closer together. But, she says, ‘It’s because when we have anal sex, he lets me do the steering.’ Essentially, crossing the butt boundary with a partner can be really exciting, and a major bonding moment, but you have to know what you’re doing.”