“Here’s something I don’t feel is often discussed when we talk about anal sex: It can actually be really intimate. A friend of mine who’s married swears that her and her husband’s increased regularity of anal sex has made their sex life far more exciting and satisfying, and has brought them closer…”Tagged: Anal Sex, Anal Sex and Intimacy, Ways To Generate Intimacy
“Of course, when I’m dating someone, I want them to value me for my ideas and accomplishments and humor or whatever. But when I’m fucking someone, I want them to value my lack of a gag reflex.”Tagged: Sex, How to be good at sex, feminism, Political Correctness
“I have this friend—she’s a polyamorous molecular biologist who’s into extreme BDSM (obviously). Recently, she told me that she regularly masturbates to the idea of men having sex with animals. Despite being generally prepared to hear something extreme come out of her mouth, I was still pretty…”Tagged: Sex, How to be good at sex
“I once had a guy tell me that he doesn’t go down on women because he’s a germaphobe. Are you kidding me? How am I supposed to relax and feel good about myself after you basically called my vagina dirty? It’s so much more of a turn-on to be with someone who’s kind of gross—someone who wants to smell…”Tagged: Sex, How to be good at sex
“I don’t think we need to file all of our actions under ‘feminist’ or ‘not feminist’—especially since consensual sex kind of exists in a political vacuum: It’s pretty much the one place that we can just do things and move on, no angry think-piece needed.”Tagged: Sex, How to be good at sex, feminism, Political Correctness, Quote of the Moment
“Like in high school, the thing about cliques is, they breed conformity.”Tagged: Groupthink, Opinion, apps, first person, Breathless
“Just because I had a bad sexual experience doesn’t mean that I’m broken. It means that I know to avoid that thing going forward.”Tagged: Sex, Overcoming Bad Sex, Improving Your Sex Life, Quote of the Moment, Culture
“The more we get to the heart of what turns us on, the more evident it becomes that sexual arousal is not often logical, politically correct, or clean.”Tagged: Enjoying Sex, Our Sexual Being, What Turns Us On, Culture, Breathless
“Words and phrases like chakra, energy, and ‘I’m sorry I’m late, but Mercury is in retrograde’ are all major boner killers for me. But unfortunately, even in notoriously skeptical New York, it’s increasingly difficult to find someone who doesn’t believe that some magical cosmic force is dictating…”Tagged: Sex, Culture, New Age, humor, Single
“Money is intrinsic to our sexual politics,” said Scott. “And it seems that no matter how enlightened we’ve become, the desire for men to get the check is an irresistible force deeply ingrained in our culture. It’s like the last vestige of a dated notion of chivalry, being carried out ad hoc by men…”Tagged: Empowered Women, The Complexity of Feminism, What Is Feminist?, What isn't Feminist?, Who Pays For Dates?
“Look, I’m a feminist or whatever, but I still like it when a guy picks up the check on a date. I understand that in our post-gender, social-justice millennial era, the idea of subscribing to traditional gender roles in a relationship makes you an honorary fascist, and yet, I can’t help getting wet…”Tagged: Empowered Women, The Complexity of Feminism, What Is Feminist?, What isn't Feminist?, Who Pays For Dates?
“Essentially, being the payer and the paid-for on a date replicates actual dom-sub sexual dynamics. But being a sub isn’t about not being in control—it’s about being in control of not being in control. There’s still power in relinquishing power.”Tagged: Empowered Women, The Complexity of Feminism, What Is Feminist?, What isn't Feminist?, Who Pays For Dates?
“It turns out love really is a battlefield, and the first casualty is your entire personality.”Tagged: Basic, Love, Being In Love, Falling In Love With Love
“I’ve faked 2,000 orgasms in my life—give or take a few. I’m not joking. I’ve done the math: Two thousand divided by 18 years of fucking equals just over a hundred forgeries per year. Yup, sounds about right.”Tagged: orgasms, Faking it, Sex
“When our dark imaginations overpower our curiosity, sex can easily become a proxy for myriad insecurities—that we’re not skinny enough, smart enough, or that our podcast is failing.”Tagged: Sex, libido, sexuality