“If your boyfriend is involved and it's your first time, offer to give him a blow job while the other guy licks you or fucks you- a big reason for this is to take the pressure off your bf, in case he gets nervous and has a hard time getting an erection. This little amount of care can make a potential bad experience into a triumph, and he never needs to know why you did it. Plus, you can always ask them to switch places- I do this if one guy is better endowed than the other, so guy 1 can get me a little more warmed up!”