Take affirmations, those cheery slogans intended to lift the user’s mood by repeating them: ‘I am a lovable person!’ ‘My life is filled with joy!’ Psychologists at the University of Waterloo concluded that such statements make people with low self-esteem feel worse — not least because telling yourself you’re lovable is liable to provoke the grouchy internal counterargument that, really, you’re not.

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