“With divorce, you are one person before, and you have to figure out how to be another person after. Forget about whether your marriage works. You're losing your family. And women often blame themselves... At least that you have control over. People who blame everybody else, they don't realize doing that is like writing a blank check for all the control in their lives. But if you take responsibility, you can effect change. If you don't, you're a helpless victim. You choose!”